PICK and DUSSY: Getting over an EX

We’ve all been through break ups in our lives, and will probably go through a couple more in the future. Truly in the end it’s not about who dumped who, or what the actual reason for the break up was; it’s all about how you handle your self after. Weather you want your ex back, you want them to quit harassing you to get back, or your just confused apply these basic rules:

Rule #1- Take a 60 day vow of silence:

You’re very emotional right now once again regardless of whose fault it is you can’t make any good decisions. By a 60 day vow of silence I mean no contact what so ever. (This will be difficult if you have kids/live together/work together in these instances make as little conversation as possible) I know there are times when you almost can’t help but write back to that mean or begging text message; or when you get a little tipsy and you start thinking about how good that person was in bed. But DON’T contact them, and if they contact you IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE. Even if you think you can be friends and just check in, YOU CANT, even if you were friends before and you have a bunch of mutual friends, YOU CAN’T, and mostly if it was a long relationship and you have strong ties to their family, YOU CANT!

Rule #2- Never have EX-SEX:

Even if you’ve made it out of your 60 day vow of silence, are dating new people and think you could care less about your EX; you can not I repeat CAN NOT sleep with them. I don’t care if it was one time. I don’t care if they will only be in town for the weekend and leaving on Monday so you wont be attached, even if its purely physical….DONT DO IT! By having sex with an ex you either give them or your self false hope that you two could rekindle the magic that you once had. Even if you do want the person back or they want you back having a roll in the sack is not the way to accomplish reconciliation.

Rule #3- Break the addiction:

Relationships can at times be more of an addiction than anything. So you must be aware of your weakest times. For example if you always spent Sunday’s with your honey make sure you have something to do every Sunday. Maybe you are accustomed to calling your boo after class, or on your lunch break. Find a friend you can call during that time. Redirect your energy!

Rule #4- Erase the Waste:

Lastly, the best thing to do when trying to get over some one is remove any thing from your life that reminds you of them. Take down pictures, delete their phone number, and give them back all their things as soon as possible. The quicker that you resume your life pre-relationship, is the sooner you can move on. When you leave things just as they were when the person left/broke up it is as if you expect them to return, and subconsciously you will not fully let go. Some times it helps to have a friend hang on to things you don’t want to dump forever, or cannot give back to your EX right away.

Break up’ s are never easy even if you want the relationship to be over. If you stick to these 4 rules you will be one step closer to being over your EX! Stay strong readers we’ve all been through it! Until next time, I wish you all love and happiness where ever and however you may find it. Good luck.

Written by: Rachel Chinquee

photo credits: NAF studios